Michael Jackson is one person who didn't deserve what he gave himself, disillusion, cynicism about his looks and his image, his health during his last years to be specific and more so his last days untill his last hour. For having adored his talent and genius to move the entire world with sheer energy of his music and his dance; I on a personal level am extremely disappointed by his death and professionally am motivated to responsibly educate who ever follows my blog or work about the harshest realities about not loving yourself for who you are. It has taken me almost a week to gather myself to write this article. I have been following his history through personal interviews, excerpts, documentary, making of his videos and the ongoing coverage post his passing by and one clear indication comes back to a single point troubled upbringing and low self esteem. We all are humans in the same right, having our weak moments in life one or more too often. Yes we all are equally vulnerable to criticism, ridicule, possible low confidence by self doubt and an unquenchable desire to be better than who we are in the present scenario - we are all that. But what we must remember in that weak moment while on verge to faulter that there is a bigger and valid reason why we are who we are. I was extremely lucky like many to be born healthy and to have grown into a presentable personality, although it would not be possible had it not been for the influx of positivity of my parents and family members all through my impressionable age. Like Michael's father once teased him about being ugly (to a boy who was the cutest and most handsome young man in his adolscence) because of his skin blemishes that made him cry and reclusive all the while, I too had one of my loved ones (not my family) say to my face that I should perhaps go for rhinoplasty. If you're already not aware of how good looking you are this comment can harm your menatality tremendously, it can lead you into extreme self doubt and contemplate procedures that you don't require to begin with. Of course I was deeply hurt and had my saddest moment there when I heard it but very soon the person was unceremoniously jutted out of my life for good. If god forbid I wasn't a strong individual and didnt have a family and a fleet of supportive friends can you imagine what that one statement could have ended me into ? I also thank my own intellect which is again a god given gift that I was sensible as a health professional to be responsible towards myself first.
Michael could have avoided all that lead him so far into his darkest moment had he refuted like his younger sister about such comments decades ago. We as his admirers could have had our Michael for a lot more years dancing to his music along with him if only he had loved himself for who he was just the way we didn't care about how he looked, it never mattered anyways. Infact I have over the years have guaged that people whether liked or disliked him unanimously agreed upon the fact that he was far better looking when hadn't gone under the knife. Wellness comes from within your soul, mind and into your body. Wellness needs positive energy, good food to run a healthy body, positive people surrounding you. Well its understandable that you can't always do much with who are surrounding you although your positivity will attract only positive people and that I have experienced. I have constantly written about the food that determines how our life behaves and yes food can also determine how we think as it influences neurotransimissions and has proven to have influence on mood regulation. When we dont eat the food that will allow us to think positively and love ourselves we automatically engage into a negative frame of mind and therby tending towards options like artificial parts of our body allowing us to be pseudo happy. Do you really think a perky or straight nose is the source of your happiness ? You ought to get a new dictionary for the word happiness in that case. I speak from my very traumatic experience of skin problems. I have a hyper reactive skin that leaves blemishes, scars, pigment with the change of climatic conditions, stress, physical interactions like holding an arm, clothing, carrying a heavy bag; I know its frivolous but true. I adore myself to no end all I need is my skin the way it originally has been so I need to take extreme care with its reactions. Being a averse to cosmetics its very difficult for me to slather sunscreen, disinfectant and non allergic products day in and day out all over my body but if thats what it takes to keep my skin healthy and safe I am all for hard work. Recently I panicked after having a therapy for my skin which had its temporary effects of marks but with immediate effect of 72 hours all was fine infact my skin was glowing and had done away with the blotchyness. Of course I have to take care with what I eat too but an external harm to your body can lead to procedures you wouldn't think of otherwise. Burn marks are one of them, please understand the reason plastic surgery is required to help people acquire a normal life out of their disformity not too become obessesively self destructive. The key to be happy is to primarily love what God or nature (who ever you believe in) created on this earth and that includes you. If you doubt your imperfect looks to get into a glamourous world let me shed some light on that aspect as well. There is no "glamour" once you're in the industry and again I speak from my experience. Its sheer perception that we in the glam world project out. On the contrary we have much hard work than anyone can imagine and I mean physical work. In the history of show business or any business a perfect nose has not raked in popularity and money and to prove it there can't be a bigger lesson than Michael Jackson. Love yourself to the fullest, share your joy wellness in its purest form will be where you are....
Wish you wellness,
Neha Wasnik
R.D
2 comments:
I so agree. I think the very sensitivity that made him the artist that he was is probably what made him take the cruel comments so much to heart - with the tragic results we're now all too familiar with.
As Michael's sad fate shows, it's often the most talented who are most vulnerable to the (often unjust) fault-finding of others.
If your words can persuade even one person to ignore the put-downs and let the whole world see the beauty and the genius within them, you'll have given the Michael the memorial he probably would cherish above all others.
I wish someone with your wisdom had been around him when he was growing up.
Well said!
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